How To Overcome Rejection By Your Family
Hi friend,
I was just thinking about what i wanted to blog on today and I said to myself, “Why don’t i talk about a recent challenge I’m currently passing through in my own life right now?
The truth is right now things arent that rosy for me. No, I didnt go bankrupt. I just got rejected by my own family- for dropping out of college.
I hated that school, oh my God how I hated being there. I hated the town, the lecturers, the students (except my close friends of course) and because of all that I was on self-destruct mode. I kept on doing things to get me expelled. I joined a cult, cheated in the examinations, beat up people, extorted money, sold drugs, and a whole lot more.
Yeah, I got suspended for a year and made the mistake of going back because my Dad threatened me. Then for the next three years, I wasted my life away, even writing my degree project but then I summomned up the courage to quit. And I did.
I turned my back on 8 years of waste, hatred and failure. But my family killed me, literally. My younger sister felt she was better than I was because she finished college and got a job in a bank. My father simply hated the sight of me. For over four months I was without money, and a hope in the world.
It’s been a couple of months since. My father still hates me. My sister still thinks the worst of me. I’m really suprised they havemt asked me to get out the house yet, which my sister pays for. And believe me I would gladly if only I had a place to go to.
I’m getting back on my feet though. I atteneded a seminar where I have learnt how to use my writing skills to make money selling information products. I am so ecited i can see the potential. and I’m placing my second newspaper advert tomorrow.
The worls is our oyster. Yes it is really.
No matter how many times and how much you are rejected, i want you to HAVE FAITH!
Don’t despair and don’t give up! Everyone will criticize you and tell you hurtfull things to bring your spirit down. They will call you an idiot, a bum and a nobody. But don’t get lost in it all. You can live through then pain and through the disgrace. Just follow these steps:
1. Believe in yourself
The greatest challenge you’ll face is keeping your faith in yourself. Don’t let anyone or anything make you lose your belief. Nothing happens unless first a belief in yourself. Without thisYou’ll succumb to the pressure and fail.
The truth is they wil say you will not be anybody worth becoming if you follow your heart. That’s a BIG lie! People who say this are only afraid to listen to their own hearts and will do everything in their power to make sure you too don’t.
2. Have a vision
The worst thing you can do when you’ve decided to damn the consequences and follow your heart’s desire is to not have a clearcut vision of where you want your life to be headed, where you want to be. You must have a perfect picture in your mind of what your life will be like when you have overcome your present hiccups. Otherwise you’ll just prove your critics right because without a clear vision you’ll fail. It’s as simple as that.
3. Look for a mentor- FAST!
This is what many people who have failed neglected to do. Look for a mentor, someone who has achieved what it is you want to do and ask them to spare a few minutes of their week teaching you the ropes. You have to ask nicely otherwise they wont budge.
A mentor will keep you focused and motivated and more importantly help you avoid mistakes in your race to the top. Having a mentor is the greatest secret of success that is never told. When you have a mentor, you will be much more stronger mentally and spirtually and cam face the rejection by your family and live through it to tell the tale.
4. Don’t hate them back
I made this mistake. but then I read a book which explained to me that I was hurting myself if I hated. So i stopped. I still feel the anger somewhat, but then I know that I cant hate if I want to heal. Yes, that’s true. you can’t heal, you can’t succeed and you can’t win if you hate. So no matter how many times they curse, you, taunt you, scream at you, do anything, DON’T hate.
Well, that’s it for now. If you’ll just follow these guidelines, you’ll overcome any kind of rejection. As the old saying in my village of Umudara, in Ihiala Town, of Anambra State, Nigeria goes, “Onye ajuru aju anaghi aju onwe ya.” That’s Ibo language and means “The rejected person shouldn’t reject himself/herself.” I hope you don’t, ok?
I wish you more love and success in your life.
Ronald
How To Develop Charisma: The Gospel According To Ivan Campuzano
Hi there,
I’m sorry I’ve not posted anything for the past week here. i had to travel to Port-Harcourt to speak at a seminar. But i’m back hot and better!
My good friend, Ivan Campuzano just put up a very interesting article on his blog at http://www.howtogetyourshineon.com/blog. It blew my mind. I know yours will be gone too. Come on if you’ve ever felt inadequate, shy, lesser, average, like a loser, anything but great, then you’ve got to walk, no run and read this article now.
The link again is at http://www.howtogetyourshineon.com/blog.
No article has ever gotten to me this year like this one did.
Success is yours.
The Power Of Grief
Hi there,
I stumbled on this article today and couldn’t help sharing it.
Why? Because my mum died in Novemer 2000, after a long ilness and i totally understand and felt what Judy is saying in her article.
Maybe you’ve lost a loved one and can’t make sense of everything. Perhaps, you have a lot of people to lame for it all. Whatever it is, Judy will help yu overcome that pain and turn it to gain. There’s power in grief I tell you. Now you can use that power to propel yourself to success. That’s what your loved one who passed on would have wanted. Go do them proud. Over to you Judy…
One of the saddest days of my life was the day that my father ended his struggle with cancer. Initially there was the relief that he would no longer suffer, followed by the acceptance that there was no other answer for him, they had done all that they could, and his life cycle was complete. But what was shocking to me was the complete sadness and grief that I felt when reality set in. Logically I could accept that his life was over, but I was surprised by the truth and rawness when I spoke the words, “I never knew you could be so sad”. And I meant it; never before had I felt so sad or experienced grief so intensely.
Have you ever had a similar experience or situation that caused you heartache? Perhaps you felt as if things would never be the same again. Maybe you were unsure of how you were going to get through it all. No matter where you are or what you have gone through, grieving isn’t easy. Grief is a process and that process is necessary to live an emotionally healthy life.
But did you also know that there is power in grief? Learning to not only deal with unhappiness and sorrow but to grow from it, is a skill that will serve you throughout your life. Too often, people feel the need to pretend that grief doesn’t exist. Grieving is not only ok, but it is essential to your well being. Additionally, by not allowing yourself to grieve you can actually cause more harm to yourself and those around you.
So what can you do to handle grief in a positive healthy way? How can you develop the skills you need to come out the other side more powerful than where you started?
First off, you must allow yourself to experience life as it is in that moment. If you feel like crying, then cry. If you feel like being by yourself, do so. And if you need support or comfort, ask for it. The single most important thing that you can do when a situation arises is to allow yourself to feel and experience your emotions as they occur. Your emotions help you gauge what’s going on inside yourself and assist you in choosing what actions to take. They are your guidance system that will lead you to where you want to go. By listening to your feelings, you have the opportunity to work through your true thoughts, release those that don’t serve you.
When you allow yourself to experience your emotions and then deal with what comes up, it can be very powerful. You will learn more about yourself, find the truth in your own life and move forward a little every day. By taking charge of your life through understanding your emotions , you give yourself time to adjust to your new situation, as well as find the tools that will help you handle and move through the process of grief.
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Judy Davis a.k.a “The Direction Diva” is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, published author and business owner. Her laid back, personal style incorporates humor and real life experience into everything that she does, while creating an atmosphere of trust and sincerity that people embrace. If you are looking for resources designed to help you move forward and make a difference in your life visit http://www.ReclaimU.com, or for specific info on what Judy is up to visit her personal website JudyDavisInc.com.
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Time Management Solutions Meets the Planner
Hi everyone.
Couldn’t post today so i got Marilyn Bohn to tech us about managing our time. Of course you already know that time is the best resource you have, so learn how to use it. Let’s get started, ok?
I don’t believe in using this phrase: “Do as I say, not as I do”. Well, I have to eat my hat-or is it eating crow? Sometimes I can’t believe myself.
My confession is this……
Twice, not just once, I am chagrined to say, but twice this week I have committed to doing two things at the same time. And all because I didn’t check my planner first. Just owning a planner and writing in it is not enough, before saying yes or making any commitment, check to see what is scheduled in your planner. I was able to change one appointment and get someone else to fill in for me so everything is covered, but it could have been avoided. And I would have had less stress as I would not have had to scramble to change appointments and arrange for someone else to cover for me.
When I am organizing for women, seniors, doing home organizing or office organizing I usually always (my English teacher would cringe over those two words being put together) talk about and try to gently persuade and educate about the importance of using a planner.
It is important to write down all appointments, engagements, plans, to do lists and so forth. Write them all down in a planner and carry it with you so when you are out and about and someone asks you if you can do something on a specific date you can check to see if you are free.
By having a shopping list written in your planner if you pop into a store unexpectedly you will have your list with you. If you need to call someone when your are out and about; your phone list of frequently called people is with you. Whenever I have said, “I don’t need to take my planner because there is no way I will need it as we are just going to the movie or something like that it has never failed, I have needed it. Something has always comes up. Maybe there is a Murphy’s law out there that says, “If you don’t have planner with you, you will need it”.
At work one day I was in a meeting and some phone numbers and other information was needed, I opened my planner and proceeded to give out numbers and information. The assistant director looked at me and asked, “What else do you have in there, you seem to have everything”. I have to admit I felt good that she was impressed.
So, putting on my professional organizing hat and my personal everyday hat, my advice is to get a planner and use it. There are a plethora on the market, check them out and see which one is best for you.
Why planners are important; I actually think necessary:
Keep track of appointments
Make new appointments without going home to check a calendar first
Shopping list is always at hand in case you just happen to stop in a store unexpectedly
Frequently used phone numbers are always handy
We are just too busy to remember everything
They keep us organized, that is to say it is a very effective organizing tool-if it is used
I know from personal experience a planner has made my life simpler and less stressful. I don’t have to remember everything as I write everything down. I have a place to carry coupons. I have a Pez collection and I have taken a photo of the ones I have so when I am at the store I can look at the photo to see if I have that one before buying. A planner also avoids using little slips of paper to keep track of things as they have a way of walking off and getting lost.
Marilyn is a creative organizer who has been organizing for over 20 years. She is a member of the National Association of Professional Organizers and is working towards becoming a Certified Professional Organizer. Professionally she has been organizing homes and offices for two years. She holds a bachelors degree in Social Work. She has reared five daughters and currently lives in Utah.
Go to her website http://www.marilynbohn.com where you can find free organizing tips and interesting blogs and helpful articles on organizing.
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Big Shot Blogging ebook: A Review
Ok, I was floored.
Why?
Because prior to reading Bryan’s e-book, Big Shot Blogging, I was getting disillusioned with my blog. Agreed I did the right thing starting out. I used Word Press, hosted on my own server, and used a cool template. But hey, I wasn’t getting any traffic to the frigging thing!
In desperation I did a search for ‘blogging ebooks’ on Google and found a link to Bryan’s ebook, Big Shot Blogging.
What about you? Do you blog? Are you satisfied with the number of visitors to your blog and isnt making any money yet?
If your answer is ‘No’, then go get yourself a copy of Bryan’s e-book, Big Shot Blogging. You’ll find it here at One Man’s Goal.com. And hey you can’t miss it because it’s right up there in the corner in bright shiny green, 70 pages of real stuff! Just fill out the subscription form and voila! you get it right in your inbox!
Believe me Bryan gave out for FREE what most of the so called ‘gurus’ online would charge you $47-$97 for. Like inside you’ll learn:
How to us web 2.0 websites to drive traffic
The number one secret to driving steady traffic to your blog.
The best plug-ins you have to use on your blog.
How to build a blog, sell it and buy it back again if you want J. Yeah! Bryan did that!
And the big one: How would you like to use the exact WP theme the big guys are using which makes their rankings soar? Bryan gives you that too and lots more. Yes, for free.
Plus Bryan book is endorsed by more than six top internet marketers. At the time I got it, I figured if he’s good for them, then he’s good for me too. I haven’t regretted it since then
If you have a blog, then you should really get Bryan’s ebook. It’ll be the greatest investment you’ll ever make online J.
Guess what? You may have heard about my blog from my using the strategies Bryan outlines in his ebook.
I really suggest you give this ebook a read. Don’t worry. You won’t make me rich if you download it. It’s free, remember?
Success is yours.
P.S. The website again is One Man’s Goal.com
